It’s what’s on the inside that matters the most- how we feel about ourselves and life- that dictates everything else.
Sometimes when I feel low, I let some self-doubt creep in and start believing what a lot of the world tells us is important- the outer facade and how we look, speak, act and pretend to be when we think everyone else is looking.
But the outside stuff is just an illusion. Appearances can be misleading. Just because someone else might have a relationship, higher paying career, house and possessions you don’t have doesn’t mean they are more ‘successful’ than you are. It doesn’t mean they’ve made it or you’ve lost it because you used to have these things and now don’t. And it certainly doesn’t mean they are any happier.
I know I keep banging on about this but all that goes to show is how passionate I am about us all waking up to the truth.
What truth? The truth that the inside is where it really counts.
I find it ironic to notice that some people think I was happier, more successful and riding the peak of my life a few years ago when I appeared to ‘have it all’ on the outside but was deeply unhappy and disconnected from my true self. But people don’t like to hear this truth. It’s too confronting for some people- and I’m sure you, like me, have faced similar reactions when you have shared your own truth.
The reason for this has more to do with them (other people) than you. Being different starts to break up other people’s fixed beliefs, and some people are just not ready to admit that they too might be better off doing things differently. As a beacon of a new truth, just being you shakes up other people’s cozily built worlds and that can be just plain uncomfortable for them.
Some people (myself at times included) are so afraid of change that they will do anything to convince themselves that they have been right all along in order to keep themselves stuck, miserable and ‘safe’ in their comfort zones.
But the power to change everything on the outside actually comes from the inside. Start loving yourself more and you’ll attract people who love you. Give yourself compliments and appreciation and you’ll get other people mirroring that back to you. Feel positive about getting that dream job and you can actually create the perfect timing and circumstances to bring the right job application to your attention and dazzle them in the interview.
I’ve seen how much change doing inner work under the banner of healing, self-love and self-acceptance can have on the outer circumstances of my life. I might have had more tangible ‘things’ in my life before I did all this inner stuff but as I have changed, those things stopped being the right ‘match’ for the evolving version of me.
Why would anyone want to hang on to a person, job or community that no longer works for them? That doesn’t inspire, enhance and support them in being the biggest, brightest and ballsiest version of themselves?
Don’t get me wrong. I like outside things too. I like touching them, looking at them, and experiencing them. It’s just that the outside is a mere shadow of what we are capable of in our inner world. The inside beauty, joy, connection and happiness I can feel and express is so much more amazing than words can say. Not everyone in your life may understand this because it’s something that has to be experienced to really come to know.
If you’re on this path, and if you are reading this then you are, I can tell you that’s it’s all worth it because there’s something even better than a great inner world. It’s when the inner and the outer world meet and make love to produce a bounty of inner-outer bliss. That’s the real prize. The catch is, which you will well know by now, that the inner needs to be good first before the outer will snap into blissful alignment with it.
So if your outer world is still looking a little empty and not taken tangible form in the physical yet, don’t worry! You’re doing the inner work so that when it does come, it will be awesome, dazzling and so ridiculously full of bliss you will never look back and regret what you used to have.
Life on the outside is constantly in a state of change. The only pudding that will ever really matter as proof of who you are is the inner one. Pass it on.